Ok so several things:
1. Your schedule is not her schedule yet. Just because the humans are up during the day hours and asleep during the night hours doesn't mean that's her schedule. And the fact that it is not shouldn't really be a major concern. Your two schedules will kind of meld together over time, but it takes time. So worries like "you don't know whether she got any sleep at night" are a bit silly. She'll sleep when she feels it's the right time to sleep, and the fact that it is dark doesn't necessarily make it a better time to sleep.
2. The kitten year (or so) is tough in terms of figuring out what to do at night. I think most Bengal kitten owners go through that. They haven't yet adopted the human's schedule, and they want desperately to play (especially if they don't have another kitten playmate), and they also haven't figured out what is "acceptable" play yet. Meaning you'll get lots of scratches and puncture wounds all over your limbs for the next 6-9 months or so. Many a night I woke up with a searing pain in my leg or toes, from a Bengal sneak-attack.
It seems like it's about 50-50 whether Bengal owners "tough it out" like I did, allowing the kittens free access to the bedroom 24/7. Or to shut them in another room as part of the bedtime routine. Either way is going to present challenges and also benefits. I wouldn't consider either to be "cruel". So my advice is to pick one of the two choices and stick with it. It's the waffling back and forth that is going to cause the biggest problems.
3. You mention cuddling and petting many times in your post. That's great! But you need to understand that especially for the next year or two, one of the best things you could do for her is to actively engage her in play. It will cure so many behavioral problems and make her so happy. So you should start making that part of your daily routine now.
4. The "she's pretty much destructing everything in our room" thing... heh, ok, you need a cold dose of reality about that. 4 words: "Get used to it". And if you take her out of the bedroom, she's going to do it in the living room, and the kitchen, and everywhere else. That's what Bengal cats do, especially bored Bengal cats that aren't getting enough play, and that's what you signed up for. So you might as well embrace it. And honestly, a year from now you will look back at this time and laugh. Her ability to create havoc and destruction is almost nothing compared to what it will be in the coming months. It's on you to get into her psychy and do two things:
a. Try to determine what things might be dangerous for such a rambunctious and athletic kitten to get into, and prevent that from happening b. Understand what types of things particularly appeal to her, and provide her safe and satisfying alternatives to the things you don't want her to do.
Examples: kittens will often climb curtains. Fortunately for us, curtains are actually not very fun things for kittens to climb. They get their paws caught, and the usually have a "crash landing" at the end. Not fun. So if you present them with a way better alternative, like a climbing pole of a tall cat tree, it's going to be an easy sell.
Another example: One of the more costly and dangerous things is for the kittens/cats to jump on top of large TV sets and knock them over. So fastening that down, or putting shelves over the top, or similar, can both provide the cat with a safe thing to jump up to, plus preserve your TV set.
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