It is currently Thu Dec 14, 2017 11:00 am

All times are UTC [ DST ]




Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 9 posts ] 
Author Message
 Post subject: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Fri May 12, 2017 2:26 pm 
Offline
Bengal Kitten

Joined: Sat May 06, 2017 9:32 pm
Posts: 3
Hi all,

My name is syaiful and i'm from singapore.new to this forum and do read alot from this forum.

All right.my cat list are as followed:

1 mainecoon mix domestic long hair(dhl) (young)
3 spotted mix rosseted bengal kitten(3 female)
3 bengal young cat.(1 male 2 female)

The mainecoon(MC) are getting along well with the 3 kitten.been eating together and sometime they will "fight" with each other.

My dilemma came from the 3 young one,

It has been a week since i got the 1st one before i get the other 2 from the same breeder.and 3 of them were sibling,and i found out the were locked up in cages since they were young.

They are now in the "safe room".and everytime when i came in to give them food n clean up they room,they will run and hide.

My guilt :( ,

Among all 3,1 of the young female let me hold her up,pat and talk to her.and when i let her go,she will walk and hide behind boxes or her cage.

For the other 2,they manage to run out of the safe room,and when i get them,i really "man handled" them in the hard way by grabbing them really hard,and the male, i pull him by the leg to get him back to the "safe room" as i know that they are not ready to explore.i know what i did was soo wrong that i feel so sad,guilty,talked to them and apologise after i treated them that way. :( :(.

What should i do?i know they will remember what i did to them, and i'm so sorry because i'm new to bengal cat and kitten.

How can i gain their trust back?and to let them know that i'm not a bad person.

Thank you.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Sat May 13, 2017 5:16 pm 
Offline
Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Thu May 23, 2013 2:21 pm
Posts: 8148
Welcome to the forum. You need to step back and breathe! These new young babies are stressed out right now. First they were taken away from their mom and other siblings. Second, they are coming to a home with cats they are not familiar with.

Since you have a very large cat family, the introductions to the other members of your family will have to go super slow. The one thing you need to do is to stop trying to man-handle the kittens. They are already terrified and stressed. Someone grabbing at them is only going to compound the situation. For the time being, the cats need to be in their safe room exclusively.

Bengals do not generally enjoyed being handled and if these were kept caged, they are probably not well socialized with humans. Thus, it is up to you to change this. However, with such a large cat family, finding time may be difficult. This equates to someone with seven children -- one gets a lot less attention than another.

I'm thrilled you love cats, but you'll just have to be patient with these last three. They are going to need a lot more time with you, in the safe room with them, sitting on the floor, talking with them. Soon they will gain the confidence and stop hiding. Will they ever all get along? Probably not! A Maine Coon is completely opposite of a bengal, so I would make sure the Maine Coon isn't bullied or attacked.

I hope you find the information in the forum helpful. Would love to see pictures of your babies and keep us updated.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Sun May 14, 2017 12:35 pm 
Offline
Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 6:24 pm
Posts: 147
Syaiful, yes welcome to the forum. My comments:
1) since you already have other cats, definitely you have their smell on you which may be scaring the Bengals away.
2) having all these Bengals together in one room, reduces your chances to bond with them quickly as they're likely bonding with each other instead.
3) having more than one newly adopted Bengal in one room, is not a good idea. I'd separate each in an isolated room.
4) spend some time with each Bengal alone in a room doing nothing but sitting there at first while reading a newspaper, or using your iPad without approaching the Bengal so each gets used to you without thinking you're a threat. Then start playing with each using a Cat Dancer. Do this repeatedly few times a day with each Bengal separately. Do NOT try to hold / grab your Bengal at this stage. The most you can do is pet their head if they allow you, preferably after playtime.
5) after doing the above successfully, in other words the Bengal is no more scared of you, you may start introducing each to the others through smell, food time behind a barrier... etc. the known steps.
6) having this number of cats in a household means they'll eventually bond more with each other than with you. That's a good thing still, as you don't want them to fight each other.

MUST HAVE:
1) Food and water bawl for each cat, apart from each other.
2) litter boxes = number of cats + 1.
3) Tree Mansions, one for each cat.
4) toys, balls, feathers... etc.
5) Cat Dancers.

Good luck...


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Mon May 15, 2017 2:42 pm 
Offline
Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Tue Sep 15, 2015 6:48 pm
Posts: 214
Wow you have taken on a big job here! As was mentioned above, you will need to separate all the cats for now, and spend equal time with them. As you visit each cat, your scent and the scent of the other cats will begin to blend into a 'community scent'. It is this community scent that allows a group of cats to coexist and bond together.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Tue May 16, 2017 9:32 am 
Offline
Bengal Kitten

Joined: Sat May 06, 2017 9:32 pm
Posts: 3
Hi,

Thanks for the advice and pointer.i tried to upload the pic of my bengals.hope it can be uploaded


You do not have the required permissions to view the files attached to this post.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Tue May 16, 2017 9:40 am 
Offline
Bengal Kitten

Joined: Sat May 06, 2017 9:32 pm
Posts: 3
Sorry for the double photo.all of them are female,as i can't manage to find my male bengal.he just disappear when i was sleeping.he was there the night before.but gone in the morning. The other female is silver in colour.will try to upload the pic soon


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Tue May 16, 2017 9:48 am 
Offline
Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 6:24 pm
Posts: 147
Syaiful33 wrote:
Sorry for the double photo.all of them are female,as i can't manage to find my male bengal.he just disappear when i was sleeping.he was there the night before.but gone in the morning. The other female is silver in colour.will try to upload the pic soon


This thread is getting more bizarre and alarming. I hope you mean by disappeared that he's still in the house but hiding somewhere. If he managed to escape through an open window or door outside, God forbid, his chances for survival would be slim to none.

Kindly take note of the advices listed in this thread and start from square one socializing with each separately before bringing them together successfully. New brought in cats shouldn't be roaming all over the house, instead should be each confined in a separate room.

PS looking at the pictures, I see they may have some features from early Fx generations except the face. But I'm not sure if they're really Bengals... I could be wrong. Do you have TICA certificates proving these are Bengals?


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Tue May 16, 2017 11:14 am 
Offline
Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Fri Mar 17, 2017 6:24 pm
Posts: 147
Syaiful33 wrote:
Hi,

Thanks for the advice and pointer.i tried to upload the pic of my bengals.hope it can be uploaded


Looks more like a Serengeti to me than Bengal, which is crossing a Bengal and an Oriental Shorthair.


Top
 Profile  
 
 Post subject: Re: Bengal dilemma
PostPosted: Tue May 16, 2017 5:07 pm 
Offline
Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Thu May 23, 2013 2:21 pm
Posts: 8148
I think all kitties are beautiful! These are as well.


Top
 Profile  
 
Display posts from previous:  Sort by  
Post new topic Reply to topic  [ 9 posts ] 

All times are UTC [ DST ]


Who is online

Users browsing this forum: No registered users and 2 guests


You cannot post new topics in this forum
You cannot reply to topics in this forum
You cannot edit your posts in this forum
You cannot delete your posts in this forum
You cannot post attachments in this forum

Jump to:  
Powered by meemonkey