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PostPosted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 9:12 am 
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Very early days, really wouldn't worry just yet about him not wanting to be stroked etc. Jagger never seemed very affectionate, has never been a lap cat etc. However, we did discover he loves a chin rub and belly rub which made him way more approachable!! He is now incredibly affectionate (in his own way), and only last week, got on my lap one evening. I was deliriously happy and couldn't stop grinning! Sometimes, it just takes longer. I would actually say that now, Jagger is way more affectionate than Hendrix.

Bengals in general don't like being picked up and my two tend to lay next to my legs on the footstool as opposed to my lap, although Jagger has recently started curling up next to me on the sofa - so that will be interesting next week when my other half is back on leave for a couple of weeks lol

Give him time, its a massive step forward that he is exploring. He will have his own way of showing affection, and it will make it all the more meaningful when he comes out of his shell a bit!

They change so much in their first year or so and it sounds to me like everything is going really well!

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PostPosted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 10:43 am 
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Please don't worry as it's such early days. As Claire said he will come round slowly as he is still finding his feet. I always think food is a great motivator. Just sit with some chopped chicken in your hand and see if he will take it. When he realises you are all about good things - play and food, he will be so much more relaxed around you. As I said in an earlier post, we did not see the real Oscar until about six months after we got him. He is still getting cuddlier as time goes on and we have had him a year at the end of October.

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PostPosted: Fri Oct 16, 2015 2:33 pm 
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Ben just needs to build up his confidence. For each kitty, it's different as to how long it takes. He will come around -- at his own pace as long as you don't rush him. I know how anxious you are to pick him up and nuzzle him. A lot of bengals do not like being picked up but are still quite affectionate. Time and patience. It will get better.


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PostPosted: Sat Oct 17, 2015 10:50 am 
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Sherry wrote:
A lot of bengals do not like being picked up but are still quite affectionate. Time and patience. It will get better.


Absolutely. Alex hates being picked up, goes stiff as a board and tries to wriggle free. But he's so affectionate in every other way. He's often curled up, wedged into my side and LOOOOVES to be pat over and over and over and over. And over.

Patience grasshopper.

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PostPosted: Sat Oct 17, 2015 6:39 pm 
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Now that the evenings are cooler, Raiden insists that a small blanket be put on the footrest of my husband's recliner and he lays there to get the best massage from his daddy. Once he's had enough, he heads over to his hooded bed to sleep! Prior to the massage, Raiden gives head butts and kitty kisses. He seems to love my husband more than me and I'm the one who feeds him and cleans his litter box. I guess he likes the massages more. Ben will show his love in many other ways.


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PostPosted: Wed Oct 21, 2015 11:33 am 
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andy7561 wrote:
Brilliant advice and help so far - thank you so much. A week away from bringing Ben home now, does anyone have any links to decent tall scratching posts/trees and large sized litter trays as advised in earlier posts please?

Thanks in advance guys, I just want to pull on your expertise and give Ben the best start in life.


I purchased this from zooplus and also have an extra large one currently boxed in the attic waiting for my partner to remove his fish tank and it will then take that place (the tank is going anyway not just to make room for another cat tree! Our cats love it, its robust and I think a pleasure to have in the home x

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PostPosted: Wed Oct 21, 2015 4:40 pm 
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That is an awesome cat tree, Rebecca. I love the baskets. I'm sure Raiden would as well. His three -- none have baskets.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 22, 2015 7:52 am 
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Sherry wrote:
That is an awesome cat tree, Rebecca. I love the baskets. I'm sure Raiden would as well. His three -- none have baskets.


TO be honest I feel I must have been a very naughty Bengal mummy as they have had various scratch posts and literally hundreds of toys over the years but these are the first trees I have ever purchased, after reading all the posts you guys have put out there I feel that them not having one prior to this is almost neglectful! They love it too but then again they love/play with virtually anything whether it be a toy or not.

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 22, 2015 4:47 pm 
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I'm hoping Ben is coming around more and more!


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 23, 2015 12:54 pm 
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Our Pixel is incredibly shy and skittish. Sudden movements and sounds freak her out. She HATES being held, but when we're all sitting on the couch at the end of the day, she'll curl up on the chaise next to my legs.

I've come to terms with her just not really liking human contact, but she's just so striking to look at, and incredibly exciting to interact with.

Ben will come out of his shell once he realizes that this is his new home.


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 23, 2015 3:47 pm 
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Kitties have to get used to sudden movements and noise. Right now, it's terrifying to them. Raiden is 8 years old and he still freaks out when I kick a rock or something when we are on our walks. Even crunching in the leaves will startle him. Outside of that, he's fine. My husband can be mowing the lawn and he won't care.


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 26, 2015 8:51 am 
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I think Ben must have memory loss lol. One day he can play brilliantly and be very inquisitive, still skittish and timid though and the next day he can hide away and hiss if you get too close, however - last night he came into our room , climbed on the bed between us, groomed himself then curled up and went to sleep!!!

We couldn't believe it, it was just awesome, even with us fidgeting around in our sleep he didn't move or jump up and he stayed like that for about 3 hours until he decided at 0230 hrs that he wanted to play. It was at that point that I thought he best be reintroduced to his own room lol.

It remains to be seen whether he will do the same tonight, I do hope so because it will reassure me that he is settling in better.

Food wise we feed him raw chicken and beef heart twice a day, I leave a few dry food pieces in his bowl for him to munch on during the day. He wolfs his food down like there is no tomorrow lol


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 26, 2015 9:42 am 
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Sounds like it is all going in the right direction. Nothing like bengal playtime in the early hours......such fun :rolleyes: !

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PostPosted: Mon Oct 26, 2015 2:10 pm 
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Normal service resumed lol - walked in the room to say hello and he hissed - I sometimes wonder if his memory lasts longer than a few hours ..... :rolleyes:


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PostPosted: Mon Oct 26, 2015 6:59 pm 
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Poor Ben!!!! Are you sure he's not a woman? Don't women have mood swings daily? LOL. Okay .... looks like the honeymoon is still on. Smiled at the fact he jumped up and slept between you guys for at least a few hours. Kitten naps are short, you know! Hang in there. That's all I can tell you. You've seen great gains with him. So he hisses a little. At least he's not aggressive and attacking you. Let us know in another week how he's doing. He's such a cute little boogar.


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