The problem is that you really haven't introduced them properly. As slowly as you think you introduced them, it wasn't nearly slow enough. A cat to cat introduction is complete when they can eat together and tolerate being around each other without hostility, and when the newcomer is confident around the others and around his new home and all it's residents. Clearly they are not there yet, not close it sounds like, so you need to take a step back and start over. If Neko is scared, and feels bullied, and is relegated to eating leftovers when the other cats are finished, like you describe, then he really has no business being left out with the other cats. He needs his own room for awhile. His own food and water dish, his own litterbox, his own cat bed, and preferably a tree or something to claim. You need to visit him, and play with him and spend time with him in "his" space for awhile, alone with him, so that you build up his confidence and develop your own bond with him without competition from the other cats. Then you need to chip away at integrating him with the other cats slowly. Slowly means you set down his dish far away from the others, but in earshot, or in line of sight, and see what happens. And if it fails, he goes back and eats in his room, you regroup, and try again the next day. Maybe further even further away. Or maybe you observe that he just isn't confident enough overall to do something like that, so you keep him in his room for another week, building up his overall confidence and then try again the following week. Something like that.
There are a lot of good resources for the cat introduction process. The "My Cat From Hell" tv series shows it many times. There are also good videos on youtube that people have done. Cat magazines have articles on this, and there are good books like "Cat vs Cat".
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