"Men's brains are fairly simple "

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Make sure when your at the game to ask to leave early because you Miss Safari

just a quick update!

so the stroller arrived saturday the BF was home and i asked him if he would put it together for me and he said HELL NOO! you ordered it you put it together he said he was agaisnt this nonsense ....so i started acting like i was putting it together ( didnt have a clue what i was doing) so after 5 mins of him watching me HE put it together ......now if i only i can con him into walking with me

My boyfriend got very angry about our kitten doing a wee on our bed at 12am last night.. And even more angry that we have to get rid of his much loved feather duvet.. So I cheered him up today by buying him a (mr.men) "mr.grumpy" mug with some of his favourite chocolate in it.. He forgave me but I don't think he be so forgiving if it happens again! I asked him what he though about me getting a stroller and he said ts ridiculous and that "the bengal forums are getting to your head" if I were to get one hahahahahah

i told my BF i seen the stroller on TBCF and had to have it...he knows all i do at work is work & BCF. he said i also need to stop.....but he goes to fishing forums soo to bad.

"The fact that you're saying "I brought tickets to the game and it'll be just me and him because I can't take the cat" means that the cat is STILL there in the background somewhere and that he probably realises this and feels a bit disgruntled."

Great post and I agree.

I doubt he is jealous of the cat attention, its more than likely because he thinks the stroller is ridiculous or the babyfication element.
Most people think walking a cat is ridiculous.

My ex gf was envious of the attention and love the cat got. She did not always agree with some of the more unusual habits in keeping a bengal, but its my cat and my house so....

Oh, never sleep on an argument.

If you really want help..........I went through exactly what your BF is going through a few years ago. I hated cats and I'm allergic to them too, my GF loved cats and always had one growing up. She knew that living with me meant no cats. Its all about compromising right? So being the great guy that I am I bought her a kitten for Christmas. I believed then, what I know now....she loved that cat more than me. Vacations and evenings were cut short because the cat was "missing her".
Eventually the cat grew on me but I never let my GF know it, same as your BF, don't EVER try to get him to admit to liking the cat! It'll just make him show you he doesn't like it. Get him to bond with the cat in his own way, it WILL NOT be the same way you do!

In fact use the cat to fill the gaps in your relationship. Your BF will bond with the both of you more.
You need to figure out were "y'all" need "SAFARI GLUE". Right now its glue is sticking to everything and he can't get it off, eventually it'll start getting on his favorite things and ruining them.

You mentioned fishing I bet safari would enjoy fishing more than you and in a very different way. Your BF would love to teach someone how to fish and I bet safari would listen well and enjoy learning.
Give him space to try to figure out the glue. Don't stand over his shoulder and show him how its done or what safari likes. Let him try to use the glue on his own, if he makes a mistake and gets a little glue on his hat it'll be more of a trophy to wear with pride than a stain.

Let him try walking the cat without you. My GFs cat would follow me around camping, but not follow her that's something I missed. That's why Pouncey is on the next level of Kamping

He likes football so get a jacket for whatever crappy team "y'all" root "fer". If one is not available get one made. If you have to buy the fabric and ship it to Happy House Cats then that's what you need to do. Its still cheaper than that God awful stroller or fake nutz
You can't tell him about it either! You don't want us men to give it too much thought........ You know what edit that idea...... but I'm leave it in as opinion #2. Option #1 is go full on custom get him involved and let him make the decisions. You need to approach it correctly. We're visual and competitive by nature so show him pics of Pouncey's jacket in the 101 and make him want to do one better. Remember this is just an "idea you have" not something your "doing" so don't push him on it at first, give him time to start thinking its "his idea" don't remind him it was originally yours. Its probably better you not like something about the jacket. If you end up doing something like Pouncey's maybe a different player or preferably a good team like the Pittsburgh Steelers

I don't have the answers to a happy relationship. If someone says they do there lying. All I can offer is my experiences and what few thoughts us men have in our empty heads, if none of this makes sense to you ladies good, that's how its supposed to be.

thanks viperkeeper i enjoyed reading your advice!

i must say that over here our team is SAINTS.....and i looked at our schedule and we dont play the steelers this year so maybe playoffs we will oh yeah and the superbowl this year is in new orleans....just incase you forgot


but i will take you advice and try my hardest not to make our realtionship all about safari like i have been. i will see if he steps up to the plate or not. SAFARI GLUE...i like that

Safari Mom, is your BF a dog guy? Would he understand it more if you had a big dog that you took for walks and in the car for rides and had him join your BF when fishing?

Maybe he's missing some of the affection you show your cat (feels affection could have gone to him if the cat wasn't the apple of your eye).

At any rate, keep your attention consistent with your cat while you placate your BF. It's a rough spot that can be easily patched over without worries.