I am so sorry you lost Raffles. He lives a long and happy life. I'm sure Suki is missing Raffles. Cats grieve just like humans do. Her companion is gone. Children of divorced parents do the same thing when the mother or father is no longer with them 24/7. A change in the texture of the fur could be from the stress, but unless you've had her at the vet recently for checkup, it might be a good time to have her checked, just to make sure nothing medically is wrong with her.
It's difficult to keep cats off the kitchen counters. Food bandits are common. LOL. I know it's a problem for you, but all you can do is scoot her off and try not to leave food out there for her to find. Trash is another thing. She may be looking to see if Raffles is in there. Did she get to say goodbye to Raffles? Did he pass away at home and she could see that he was no longer living? I wonder how cats might react to that. I'm just not thinking this is food related unless she does not like the cat food she is supposed to eat.
A part of your home is missing. I'm sure you're grieving for Raffles as well. Some people are quick to try and get another companion -- but you have another cat already. My opinion is that if nothing medically is wrong with Suki, then the loss of her friend is the cause of this sudden change in behavior since it started only after Raffles passed away. Everyone needs time to heal, even cats. I'm sure they spent a lot of time together and maybe you can spend more time with Suki. She may just be looking for attention, knowing that she gets it when she hops on the counter or tries to get in the trash. Hang in there and give it some time.
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