There are many reasons why people ask for help in forums such as this and many differing attitudes to the help that is given too.
Not all really want help, some are just wanting support and allies to back up their own ideas, no matter how strange they may be, and some want to "tell" the forum the best way of dealing with cats too, under the guise of "seeking help". So when the forum is not too keen on the "help seeker's" ideas and attitudes towards their cat(s), it can all go pearshaped. What also needs remembered that this is not a forum that discusses trivia, it is a forum about cat's lives, so pussy-footing around the OP's "feelings" could cost the cat its life or at best prolong its unhappiness.
It is often not the Doctor with the best bedside manner that is the most knowledgeable actually. Perceived "rudeness" may be mistaken for not caring or being ill informed, or being "judgemental", but often it may be just a sign of a realistic or fact based individual who is just being direct.
This forum has been here for years, some members are long standing. They are people who have a huge amount of experience in Bengals and have given of their time again and again to help posters. I am sure they don't really appreciate being told off and "advised" by a member who has 9 posts to their name...
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