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PostPosted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 3:20 pm 
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Hi all,
It saddens me to have to even discuss this topic, but I might have togive up my babies. My boyfriend hasn't been sleeping because of them (I have posted this before on a different discussion topic) and we just figured out just HOW expensive it is to care for them.
I am writing for 2 reasons.
1- I wanted to ask breeders on this site, and well as anyone else who knows about these legal issues...
am I allowed to sell them to someone else for less then I paid for them? (Of course, to a very good home who I know will be good to them?) Someone told me it was illegal and that I wasn't allowed to do so.
2- Is anyone interested in possibly adopting my little babies or know someone who might be?
This is breaking my heart, but I don't know what else to do. The vet bill last night was way more then I expected, and the vet wants them only on wet food, 2 cans per day each, which is a lot more then the dry food, and boarding them while I go away (I travel for work a lot...)
I guess I didn't really think this through or consider my boyfriend when I got my new friends (who I am so in love with....)
Any advice anyone has would be very helpful.
Thank you
Jaime :cry:

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 3:47 pm 
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Sorry to hear this.
I believe it's recommended by most Bengal people that you contact your breeder with your intentions to re-home. Even if they're not able to help re-home them, the breeder would like to keep track of where the kittens have gone.
You do seem to love your kitties, I hope you can work out these difficulties. In the meanwhile, ignore the dietary advice of your vet(who doesn't seem familiar with Bengals) and follow the advice of the experienced breeders and owners on the forum.
Best of luck.

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 4:09 pm 
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Thanks Carmen.
I am trying to come up with every possibility to keep them.
Another question I have is about smoking.
My father is a VERY heavy smoker and smokes his cigarettes in the house. He has offered to watch them when I go away, but will all the cigarette smoke bother the little kittens' lungs?
Will they come home smelling horribly of cigarettes?
Does anyone own bengals and smoke?

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PostPosted: Tue Jun 12, 2007 4:20 pm 
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Hi Jaime

I agree with Carmen here, why does your vet want them on wet food only, many people on here feed only dry food. What is actually wrong with them?

As for the not sleeping issues is there not another room you could put them in at night so the don't wake you up?

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PostPosted: Wed Jun 13, 2007 8:15 am 
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Hi Jaime,

Ahh, I am really really sorry that it has got to this stage for you :cry: I was actually about to read your topic 'update' before I saw this post from you.

... Are you sure you are ready to give up just yet Jaime ? :D

I know this is tearing at your heart, I know your boyfriend is having a tough time but it is upto you and what you feel inside !!!!

Im not sure about the smoke though, I'm sure it can only have the same effect that it would on people who are 'passive smokers' ....

I am also interested as to why your vet says they need to be on a wet food diet only !!!! There is no way they can get all their nutrition through that ... :shock: (I do stand to be corrected though).

Have you spoken to your breeder yet about your dilemma?

Also, did you mention that you travel alot Jaime ? Bengals do require stability, routine and a constant supply of love and interaction. with their owners I am just wondering if your travelling frequently is maybe affecting this?

Im sorry I haven't been ale to help your situation .. I wish I could do more for you, I really do !! :?

Aimee x


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PostPosted: Wed Jun 13, 2007 9:24 am 
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Sell the boyfriend....keep the kitties!!!!!


There's always a way to work around things! :wink:


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PostPosted: Wed Jun 13, 2007 11:14 am 
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:lol: :lol:

Good thinking meemonkey! :wink:


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PostPosted: Wed Jun 13, 2007 11:07 pm 
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I'm so sorry to hear about that. My olly loves to hang out with my father. He also smokes around him and my other adult cats. I have not seen or had any issues on this but then again I could be lucky. As of the smell. Yes they will come home smelling like it. If you don't smoke you will smell it on them. Everytime I go to my b/fs dad house I leave smelling like it. A good bath when they get home will fix that.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 12:41 am 
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meemonkey wrote:
Sell the boyfriend....keep the kitties!!!!!


There's always a way to work around things! :wink:


I must agree with this! :wink: :lol:


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PostPosted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 10:37 am 
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Hi Jaime,

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Sell the boyfriend....keep the kitties!!!!!


HA HA...SOOO FUNNY :lol: :lol:

Many years ago when I lived on my own my boyfriend would come and stays at weekends. One of my young cats took to peeing on his bag of freshly cleaned working clothes :lol:

I chose my sweet little buddles of fun and dumped the boyfriend :wink:

On a more serious note Jaime, let your father look after them whilst your t work. That's really good of him to offer. He might want to keep them for good. Then atleast you'll know they are well loved :D

I personally don't smoke but when I was a child we had two cats and my dad smoked. Both cats lived until they were 15 & 17 years old.

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 10:48 am 
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lol @ sell the boyfriend!!!! :lol:

I'm sure there is a way round this - whatever you do, please don't make a decision overnight, or you may live to regret giving up your cats. :cry: Is there any way you can have a break from them for a while and see how you 'get on' without them...? :?

If it were me, i couldn't give up my cats, unless there was no other way out. I had two cats 6 years ago who i had to give up as i'd split up from my then fiance and ended up in a 2 bed flat that didn't allow cats. That was heartbreaking and i still to this day wonder how they are, even though i know they went to a good home.

As for the smoking? I don't think it's good for cats, or humans, to be honest - but that's something you will have to take up with your dad personally. Though it's good of him to offer to look after the cats for you.

I think the suggestion of putting the cats in a different room (if possible) is a good idea. Our cats sleep downstairs at night, every night, and they're now happy with that routine. And so are we because we get a full nights sleep! :wink:

Re the food - there must be a valid reason as to why your vet suggests wet food only? However, we were told that our male cat should live on the diet wet food forever. No more treats, etc etc. :shock: Pah to that...the stuff they were offering costs lots of money. I'd rather do good food (raw/natural) as a treat and normal (whiskas etc) cat food with a bowl of dry as a daily food.

I wish you the best of luck Jaime and hugs for you, too xx

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A wise woman once told me that all animals are loyal and trustworthy to the people closest to them, right until the bitter end.....Humans sadly never will be!


I'm sure we can all relate to that somewhere down the line.... :wink:



Jaime - Remember they're still babies, they will calm down given time and learn to sleep at appropriate times....don't give them up so readily, work with them for a while and make them fit into your life!

I know its hard sometimes especially at 4am when they're bouncing off the walls and you're trying to sleep, or when you get that huge vet bill because they're feeling poorly and need emergency treatment. Just think of their little cheeky faces greeting you after a long day at work or when they hassle you first thing in the morning for some attention.....how could you live without them! :wink:


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PostPosted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 2:33 pm 
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Wow! Thank you ALL for all of these posts and kind words! (For some reason I did not get an email notifying me that people responded to my post....I'll have to look into that!)
To update you all, After hours and hours of crying, a lot of discussion, and a lot of thought....my boyfriend told me that he would do his best to make it work with the kittens :o We are not giving them up!!! I couldn't be happier! He has been sleeping with ear plugs every night so the noises and cries haven't been waking him. The boys still run around like crazy at night, but not as long. Now they jump in the bed with us in the middle of the night and start to meow, purr, and nurse on the blanket, which wakes him, so I might have to start keeping them out of the room again. (We don't have a downstairs- we live in a 2 bedroom apartment in Queens NY) In any case, they are getting better! I also received an unexpected bonus at work to help cover the cat expenses (I've already gone out and bought them a new kitty bed and some new toys to celebrate! The rest will be tucked away for kitten expenses that come up in the future) As for the wet food- my vet thinks that the dry food is higher in fat? and contributes to the growing rate of cat obesity? He said he used to recommend dry food for years, but a lot of research has found that dry food is too high in fat and sugar and recommends an all wet food diet? (This is the same vet who said not to give them raw chicken and tells me not to give them any human food..chicken, turkey, fish, etc.... :roll: )
I guess if you go to 2 different doctors you will hear 2 different things, and the same goes for vets.
We have decided to compromise...instead of just giving them a can of wet in the morning and a can of wet in the evening with no dry food, we have now been giving them half a can each in the morning and night, and also leaving 1/3 cup of dry food out during the day. (Instead of the huge bowl I was leaving out to pick on whenever they felt like it) Diablo's bowel movements are now normal again (they were very soft since we got him from the breeder- I guess the dry food was contributing to that! She has told me she thought it was the wet food) So I think this was a good compromise...they seem happy and healthy and to be doing very well!
We were told Yuki has a heart murmur, so that is another reason the smoke was one of my concerns....
I do travel a lot, but usually my boyfriend will be there with them,so they won't be alone. I just felt bad going away and leaving them with him when he was feeling this way.
As for getting rid of the boyfriend :wink: I considered it for about 2 seconds...he really is a VERY good man and did not want to have to give them up either...he has never had a pet before and is still learning and getting use to it (just as they are getting used to us) He loves them just as much as I do- LOOK!
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This is what I came home to the other day!!! Yuki cuddling with him and Diablo sleeping on the couch right above his shoulder!
Again, I REALLY thank you all for being there for me and offering suggestions and such kind words!!!
Hugs from NY! xoxox
Jaime :P

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 2:38 pm 
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Mega mega pleased for you all

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PostPosted: Thu Jun 14, 2007 3:12 pm 
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Hi

Wow what a great end to the story and we were all with daggers drawn at your obvious honey of a boyfriend. He was almost hung, drawn and quartered. :D

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