Just in case you haven't really gone and you are still reading... ailurophile, I hope you understand that the only reason I (or anyone else, I think) ever even recommended rehoming was because YOU, the owner, are the one who brought it up first. Well I guess, as you said, "get rid of" (which is even harsher and more unappealing than "rehome"). Generally rehoming is the LAST thing members of this forum want to recommend, but when it's the OWNER who says it first, that shows that there's clearly a problem. It shows a lack of commitment on the owner's part. So when you're the one who brings it up, especially in the title of the thread with the words "get rid of", as if your cat is an old pair of shoes, it makes the situation look hopeless and makes you look like you're not really willing to put in the effort and do whatever it takes to keep your cats happy. I know it may look like everyone's "attacking" you, from your point of view, but that's really not the case. As others have already said, we can only respond to what YOU say here, not to whatever else you may be thinking in your head.
First you say things are so bad you may have to "get rid of" one of your cats, but now you say everything's great, your cats are happy and healthy, and you'll NEVER rehome them. Yeah, that's pretty inconsistent. Total flip-flop... And only in 3 days. Were you really able to solve all your cats' problems in 3 days, without taking a shred of advice from anyone here? I'm sure most of us here have no idea what to really think about you and your situation, especially after this crazy thread. But still, everyone wants to help. I think that shows it's always the cats' best interest we have at heart. So please, try not to be so defensive and malicious towards everyone. When all the people here are trying to do is help your cats, it can be very frustrating on our end too, you know. I wish your kitties good luck and a happy/healthy life, no matter what you decide to do.
*edit* And just to reiterate, I too strongly suggest having bloodwork done. It cannot hurt her (aside from the needle prick) and can only help you as far as figuring out what's wrong. Yeah, it sucks having to spend the money, but I can't imagine it not being worth it! We've spent around $500 in vet bills on Linux since we got him, a good portion of that only to find out there was nothing really wrong, but I wouldn't have done it any differently. The peace of mind and knowing I did all I can for my babies is what's really important. Remember, there are plenty of things that could be wrong that you won't realize just by observing her, that's what blood tests are for. If the tests come back all clear and there is nothing wrong that the vet can tell, then yes, you have to start looking at other possibilities of what could be causing her stress - ie. the new cat, other cats in your yard, something about the household environment, etc. Maybe instead of getting so defensive and yelling at everyone you could give us more information to go by, so we can discuss other possibilities. It's entirely possible that you may be right about the fast introduction not being the cause of Ali's current problems, but no one here will be able to give you any further advice or help if you don't explain the situation better...
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