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PostPosted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 10:02 am 
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Biba (our female bengal) has recently started bullying one of our older moggies & its got to the point now where mini (the cat being bullied) is living outside most of the time. He's 11 and im not happy with this. Last night we decided to lock the catflap so that he'd stay in and at about midnight we found him cowering in the corner of the kitchen in his own urine with Biba standing guard over him. Can anyone offer any advice on what we can do about this.

THanks xxxx


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 11:08 am 
Unfortunately once cats have got into that position there's no amount of persuading can make them like each other again. Can you keep them separate? Can your older moggy have a room of his own?

Has anything changed recently? How old is Biba and has she been spayed?


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 1:26 pm 
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Thanks for your reply Nicola. Biba was 1 in August and she has been spayed.

We have 6 cats in total, 4 moggs (3 are 11 and 1 is 9) and 2 bengals Biba is 1 and Miss Bean is 7 months), the other 3 moggs just ignore biba when she’s being moody, but mini is terrified of her & just lets her beat him up.

I really want to try and sort this out as the thought of finding a new home for Biba is extremely upsetting and that really would be a last resort.

Nothing has changed in the house other than Miss Bean getting spayed about 3 weeks ago.

Any advice would really be appreciated.........im desperate (never thought id admit to that).

You have beautiful cats by the way Nicola :) x


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 3:30 pm 
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Did you try Feliway (pheromones) ?

It could be worth a try, it doesn't always work but... ;)

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PostPosted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 4:38 pm 
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my recommendation for a start is to seperate mini from everyone else for a little while.
give him some sanctuary & peace in a bathroom, or in your bedroom...somewhere he can be on his own to regain his confidence & spend some time just with you, so he can be reminded that he is a much loved part of your life.

then hopefully, gradually give him small introductions back into the family, especially with biba, so that he can realise he has your support while she is around.

hopefully, in time they will be able to spend more time together, but it may be a case of seperating them whenever you aren't there to keep an eye.


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 6:15 pm 
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Hi Ann, yep ive tried a feliway plug in & it doesnt seem to have any affect on biba, its been plugged in for 3 weeks now, maybe it needs a bit longer.

Hi Ren, thanks for your comments, what you say makes sense and ill defo try separating him & giving him lots of attention. We've already been making an extra fuss of him but at the first opportunity he runs straight back out (Biba cant get out of the cat flat as its magnetic so only our moggs can get out).

All this is making me soo sad, i dont like to think of mini being so unhappy he feels he has to stay out all the time :(


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PostPosted: Thu Oct 18, 2007 6:18 pm 
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hi,
i wish you best of luck, it's upsetting to see any of your cats suffering for any reasons. keep him in & keep him seperated with lots of fuss, hopefully with a little time & patience it will work.


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 10:02 pm 
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hi,

how are things going? are they being better towards each other yet?


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 10:44 pm 
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Hi Ren, things are a little better thanks. We've been bringing mini in every night & giving him lots of fuss and attention and he now seems much more confident when he's in the house. We've also put a bell on Biba's collar so he always knows where she is and she cant leap out on him unexpectedly.

Thanks so much for your advice & also for asking how things are going xxx


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PostPosted: Fri Nov 02, 2007 11:20 pm 
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that's great news!

good idea with the collar :wink:

give them more time & they'll be fine hopefully :D


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PostPosted: Sat Nov 03, 2007 3:27 am 
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I have the same issue with Olly. Olly is always giving Kiki a hard time. I have tried everything. Nothing has worked. After he got neutered it only got a little bit better. I don't know what to do with him. He also wont let me pet him. He walks or moves away if I try. But, he has to be in the same room as me and he has to be laying next to me.. If I leave the room he is right behind me. If I take a shower and I don't let him in the bathroom he crys and paws at the door. :roll: I hope your cats come around... Good luck.

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