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PostPosted: Sat Jul 15, 2006 8:18 am 
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Picked Diego up yesterday, and i could not have asked for a better natured kitten, he is soooo loveing, adores a cuddle, but instead of feeling over the moon i sat hear last night and cryed for a good hour :cry:, as a child we always kept cats, and from time to time they had their scraps, but i have never seen a cat show so must hate and dislike as Tia is showing to Diego and myself.
We dont live in a very big house and unfortunatly i have been unable to put Diego in a room of his own, instead we have built him a small enclosuer in
the lounge, it house's his litter tray bed food bowls with enough room to play.
From reading different advise i thought that this would be o.k and that Tia and Diego would be able to see and sniff each other through the meshing without Tia hurting him. How wrong was i, No Tia can't hurt or touch Diego but she has attacked me a couple of times and has gone from a very laid back, maybe somethimes aloof cat, to the terminator :evil: Growling hissing
smacking the mesh, and when anyone goes near her she growls and goes for us, and i have been the one in the fireing line.
I expected her to be put out by our new arrival, i'm just shocked at the compleat personality change.
I have been so exsited about Diego coming home, now i just feel tearful and so guilty at the thought of upseting Tia (but love Diego sooo much as well)


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PostPosted: Sat Jul 15, 2006 9:19 pm 
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Hey Nikki, my heart goes out to you :cry:

I've had the same situation with my moggie (although she is not attacking me in anyway).

TRY not to get too down about things - it really is early days although it must be really hard with Tia clearly not being happy. I really do think a separate room is the way to go - could you not have Diego in your bedroom (or another room) for now and introduce them very slowly all over again. I would certainly start from scratch as it sounds like Tia is seeing Diego as an intruder in her home.

Hopefully once your remove Diego from Tia's immediate sight then she will start to resemble your loving baby again.

I have a link to a really good website (the lady is a behaviourist as well as a rescue). I can send this to you if it would help.

Please keep your chin up, let me know if there is anything I can do to help.

Linda x

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PostPosted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 2:35 pm 
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Tia has calmed down quite a bit, she now sniff's at Diego through the mesh
watches him for a little while and then walks away, almost as if she was bored of him.
So my next question is when do i introduce them properly, when will i know
it's the right time, Tia has stopped growling and hissing at him, and that is a huge improvment on her behaviour Friday, she is even allowing us to fuss her when she is near him, when on Friday she growled and attacked us.
What is the best way to introduce them, at the moment the only thing between them is wire mesh, i was thinking about taking Diego into the lounge sitting him on my lap, and letting Tia investigate him, that way he will be with me and to a certain degree protected if she decided to be nasty.
What do you think hear on the forum, any comments will be really appreciated.
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 2:55 pm 
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Hi Nikki,

Have sent you the link so hopefully you will get some good advice from that. I wouldn't sit with Diego on your lap (understand why you want to do it) - I would do it the other way round so you can reassure Tia as Diego investigates. Tia has had you for a while now and I think doing it this way will limit jealousy.

The other thing is that I would only introduce them for short periods initially (and stand by with a set of keys you can drop in the event it does get a bit frantic!!!).

In terms of timing - I really think you need to be the judge of that - maybe leave it another couple of days to ensure Tia really is calm?

Have you got a feliway plug-in? I've found this really helps all 4 of my babies (especially my moggie stitch who can get a bit stressed with my bengal babies). The vet should be able to supply ou with one.

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PostPosted: Sun Jul 16, 2006 3:03 pm 
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Sounds like a good idea Nikki.....you can't keep them apart forever!

They'll get used to each in the end.

I know it probably sounds like they want to kill each other at the moment, but they will adapt to each other given time.

Without being there its hard to say what the best move would be.....normally when you introduce a new cat/kitten into the household you would expect hissing, growling, boxing etc etc from both parties (more so from the existing cat). But even if you left them to it, they wouldn't really harm each other that much......one would run off somewhere before that happened to a safe spot somewhere in the house.

Eventually they will tolerate each other.....obviously try to be there at all times when they meet, but be there as a authority figure. They may be your babies but you have to let them know who's the boss.....raise your voice if you have to.....let them know you won't have it! (works for ours when a fight kicks off).

Hope things get better soon.....don't get down about it! :wink:


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