It’s two days since he’s come to you and your family members have given up on him, but you are proud of the fact that you haven’t???
IT’S 2 DAYS!!!!
You need to seriously reset your expectations. He’s not really a kitten anymore. He’s had at least two homes, and the fact that the last one chose to give him away means that’s he’s either traumatized from missing his old family, or from being treated poorly there, or both.
You and your family are trying way too hard, and it’s backfiring on you. You need to think longer term and not be so demanding of instant gratification.
He does not need to be poked or prodded or grabbed. He does not need to be tricked into coming out of his hiding place, only to be startled when he does, or to have other people’s smells forced on him. He can smell you just fine where he is.
What he needs is to know two things:
1. That you are non-threatening. 2. That you are a provider.
That means you get down on his level, you avoid loud noises, you avoid quick movements, and you prove to him in that way that you will not hurt him. When he does come out, let him come out and sniff you (universal cat greeting) and the quickest way to a bengals heart is through play.
Also, when you say “you wanna love him lots”, understand that you have the cat that you have, and he may or may not be a cuddly kitty. Many bengals are not. Fun and active? Yes. Cuddly and affectionate? Perhaps.
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