It could be many things, but it sounds like a more serious version of what I have been going through with Babbage in recent weeks - he has it in his head that he needs to be "top dog" in the house. Partly, I suspect because when he and his sister were in the cattery at the start of Dec she handled things better and his dominant position over her has been eroded.
This manifests as him either ( gently ) trying to mouth my feet - hold my foot in his mouth or when that fails, jumping on me and wrapping his claws legs around my limbs and again gently biting me. Always this happens in prime territory that used to belong to him - my lap on an evening when I am sat on the sofa*. He has never hurt me during these episodes, but he needs to learn that he isn't and won't become the boss of the house.
* Ada always used to defer to Babbage about ownership of my lap - if he was settled she would never come up, now she comes up regardless. Babbage will come up, lick her face, then try and stand over or sit on her - not too subtle with his messages - "we're friends, but this is MY spot".
The steps that I take are:
1. Show plenty of love/give cuddles outside of the site of contention.
2. Whenever he comes on my lap make a fuss and stroke him, so that he understands he is welcome. I also call him over to me on an evening. 3. When there are signs he is going to do something gentle discouragement, lowered voice, ease him away from the situation. This *may* help, often not as he has, at this point, the need to dominate.
4. When he uses his mouth on me/jumps on me put my hand on the top of his head to tell him to stop or hold him down/by the scruff of the neck. All gentle, but firm.
5. Put him out of the room for 20 minutes.
As likely as not, when he comes back in the room he'll come on my lap and turn turtle - on his back with all 4 legs in the air, looking to get tummy rubs. He is, by nature, a very sweet cat.
My cats don't sleep with me - Ada used to get a bit too hunty in the small hours of the night - but it sounds like in your case the bed and the sofa are prime territory and need to be contested. His age might be a bit of an issue, in that in the wild he'd have his own territory by now, but he needs to know that he is loved, but 2nd on the list of people who are important in the house.
I hope some of the above is useful to you - good luck and keep us informed of how you get on.
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