I wasn't going to comment however, on the basis that BB was happy with Jasper and has now adapted without Jasper, it was clearly Jasper's breeders fault for homing him in a bustling and busy family home when he wasn't used to it. We don't have children and my boys are now about 17 months old. This week, my other half was busy doing some DIY in the hall, and the boys were with me in the kitchen waiting to be fed. There was a sudden loud noise (he dropped something) that startled me, let alone the boys, who jumped out of their skins and didn't know where to run first for safety and shot off in different directions. Jagger shot into the living room and unfortunately, Hendrix shot into the conservatory and out of the window. It was dark, raining and blowing a gale.
We have never seen Jagger so scared and it took us ages to calm him down and come out of hiding. I was worried sick about Hendrix and kept going to call him but he didn't come home for 2 and a half hours (wailing like a banshee and very scared) and its taken a good 24 hours for them to stop skulking around and looking over their shoulders for shadows, and lots of work, love and playing with them from us to make them feel safe in their home again.
I strongly believe that if they were used to loud noises on a regular basis from kitten-hood (as you would get in a family home with children running around etc) then we wouldn't have had all the drama and worry this week.
A kitten would learn from BB there is nothing to be scared of. Jasper was an adult who found it impossible to adapt.
It's your families decision - it was Jasper being an adult when he joined your family that seems to have been the issue from what I can gather. I wish you all the best in your decision and hope some of the harsh comments don't put you off letting us know what you decide and how it goes x
_________________ Clare Hendrix and Jagger, Brown Marble Boys (born 18 August 2013) Hampshire, UK
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