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 Post subject: Goodbye
PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2018 9:26 pm 
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Asian Leopard Cat

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I will say goodbye to you all, it's been good to know you all and have advice and shared pictures over the years.

I will not be on this group anymore for my own reasons.

Take care all of you.

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Magic (brown spotted boy born 31 March 2012)
Pearl (seal Lynx Point girl born 1 October 2015)
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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Sat Jul 14, 2018 1:37 pm 
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Asian Leopard Cat

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Really sorry to lose you, Clare. You've been a valuable member of this forum for a long while.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Sun Jul 15, 2018 8:31 am 
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Ack! I wish you wouldn't. It's been great having you here.

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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Wed Jul 18, 2018 7:34 pm 
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This is, in a way, a little embarrassing.

I had no idea that my wife was a member of this forum and so, innocently, came here in search of desperate help regarding our two Bengals of whom one (or both) will, sooner or later, fall off of our wretched tree and endure a very horrible, nasty death. It *will* happen and I don't really want to be there when it does; but it *will* happen.

I have a very caring nature in respect of God's creatures. My wife is, conversely, completely blase and carefree in her take on life, hence our oblivious differences in what constitutes "a dangerous environment".

Me: a seven foot drop onto a solid wooden table or a metal radiator = a broken neck or worse.

My wife: a seven foot drop onto a solid wooden table or a metal radiator = pah, grow a pair you wimp.

It is with regret that my wife has chosen to leave a forum to which, I am sure, she has provided much value via her contributions.

My post was made with only the concerns and safety of our cats in mind.

I apologise if anyone was offended.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Thu Jul 19, 2018 12:20 am 
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Asian Leopard Cat
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chuckles1066 wrote:

Me: a seven foot drop onto a solid wooden table or a metal radiator = a broken neck or worse.

My wife: a seven foot drop onto a solid wooden table or a metal radiator = pah, grow a pair you wimp.

It is with regret that my wife has chosen to leave a forum to which, I am sure, she has provided much value via her contributions.

My post was made with only the concerns and safety of our cats in mind.

I apologise if anyone was offended.


*Sigh* you know, it sounds like this is just something that you need to work out with your wife, and hopefully make some sort of compromise between wanting to provide your cats with something they enjoy, their desire to perch and climb, and their safety. Could they fall off? Sure. Could they live their entire lives and not fall off (again) and then you have 2 or 3 more cats who also live out their entire lives without falling? sure. Despite what you say, there are no certainties. But you guys need to figure that out. I just wish that Clare wasn't a casualty in this drama as she's been a respected member here for 3 years, and I hope that someday she chooses to return.

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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Thu Jul 19, 2018 4:55 pm 
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Asian Leopard Cat

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Clare told me about you, Chuckles. I honestly find it hard to believe you did not know your wife was part of this forum. Even my husband knows as I discuss things on here with him. That being said, I know Clare was truly concerned when Pearl fell off the stair railing and tried to find a solution to prevent her from getting up there. I saw a picture of your cat tree and it's a good cat tree. It's great you are super worried about Magic and Pearl, but they have survived these years fine. My Raiden hopped up on a 8' ladder yesterday and practically got tangled up in the rungs trying to get down. Luckily, I was there to unravel him and bring him safely to the floor. Just like children, pets get into situations. If you are worried about Magic or Pearl falling 7', then create something that breaks their fall. My big DSH has fallen twice from the top of a cat tree and I placed one of his soft beds on the floor to catch him now.

Your apology here is accepted, but you need to apologize to your wife. She was truly upset. She's been a part of this forum for years and I, for one, hated to see her post a goodbye.

#ComebackClare


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Thu Jul 19, 2018 7:14 pm 
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Sherry wrote:
Clare told me about you, Chuckles. I honestly find it hard to believe you did not know your wife was part of this forum.


No, I genuinely didn't; since she's become internet "savvy" she's into all sorts of things (she apparently has a Facebook account even though she knows my views on that hideous platform) and so when she talks about stuff she's read on "forums" she's usually referring to a group or other similar entity that exists within the confines of Facebook. As such, it's somewhere that I will never encounter her, simply because if you ever find me on Facebook you know I really f**ked my life up.

Sherry wrote:
It's great you are super worried about Magic and Pearl, but they have survived these years fine.


Fine today, one mishap away from being dead tomorrow. I simply can't adopt the blase, cavalier attitude to life that my wife commandeers.

Before Bengals were part of our life, our first cat was a hand-reared runt from a litter. We took him to the vets for an initial assessment and, whilst Clare was busily coo-cooing him, the vet looked at me and shook his head.

We took him home anyway and, by a small miracle, he survived. And lived a good long life.

But every night I hear, and relive, his screams of pain when a blood clot in his leg was moving around and we had to rush him to a vets at 3a.m to have him put to sleep.

I make no apologies for not wanting to ever repeat that.

Thank you for reading.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Thu Jul 19, 2018 9:56 pm 
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Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Tue Jan 26, 2010 4:04 am
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Location: Colorado, USA
You talk about your wife like you think she's stupid.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Fri Jul 20, 2018 9:43 am 
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Asian Leopard Cat

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huh... I saw that post but still confused... seemed like a normal disagreement to me but nothing for anyone to be upset about. Seems to me you both care about the kitties. If the husband is worried, time for him to break out the tools and build some awesome looking cat shelfs over the radiator for kitties to land on. Even if it's not needed, kitties won't mind more play areas.

My bengals have fallen from their tree when younger, doesn't seem to happen anymore.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Fri Jul 20, 2018 7:34 pm 
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Bengal Kitten

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7Deadly$ins wrote:
You talk about your wife like you think she's stupid.


I apologise if that's the impression I portrayed, it is very, very far from the truth.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Fri Jul 20, 2018 8:16 pm 
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tamberav wrote:
huh... I saw that post but still confused... seemed like a normal disagreement to me but nothing for anyone to be upset about.


Indeed but we live in a snowflake culture where individuals get all het up and have panic attacks over things at which that those of us with a backbone wouldn't bat an eyelid. Sticks and stones.............

tamberav wrote:
If the husband is worried, time for him to break out the tools and build some awesome looking cat shelfs over the radiator for kitties to land on. Even if it's not needed, kitties won't mind more play areas.


My plan exactly; we're due a new kitchen in the next couple of years, an entire labyrinth of trees and shelves are on the agenda. And the shelves won't be poxy 10" x 10" Mickey Mouse structures, they'll be grown-up things that will support adult cats.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Sat Jul 21, 2018 12:40 am 
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Asian Leopard Cat

Joined: Tue Jan 26, 2010 4:04 am
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Location: Colorado, USA
You tell me on one hand that you definitely don't think low of her, on the next post you call her a special snowflake with no backbone.


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 Post subject: Re: Goodbye
PostPosted: Wed Aug 01, 2018 3:07 pm 
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Bengal Kitten

Joined: Sun Jul 29, 2018 6:53 am
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Sorry to intervene, newbie here. Browse a few forum threads, all seem good and friendly, I even got a very long explanation about Bengal. Love to be here.


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