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PostPosted: Thu Oct 29, 2015 7:44 pm 
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She's beautiful, how do bengals end up in rescue centres, they are such lovely cats, I don't understand it!


Oh I definitely understand it. Just think of how many people have come here after getting a bengal, and essentially confessing that what they actually want is a wild looking lap kitty, and just can't deal with the challenging and boisterous personality that they ended up with. What I don't understand though is how a bengal in a rescue isn't snapped up within 24 hours. That's quite a "jackpot" find, for someone to find one at a rescue. To me it just seems almost inconceivable that a person wanders into a rescue looking for a cat to take home, and passes over the bengal. Even for someone knowing nothing about them, they certainly stand out in a crowd!


Yes I do understand how challenging they are, but they have such engaging personalities! Plus if you are spending that much money on a pedigree cat, you'd expect someone to think long and hard and research the breed properly. I suppose I think once you make a commitment, you stick to it, you don't quit at the first obstacle.

My two test me everyday, but I can't imagine life without them now!

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PostPosted: Fri Oct 30, 2015 4:41 am 
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Not everybody has the stamina and patience to deal with a bengal cat. I'm past retirement age and I don't think I have the patience I should have with Raiden. He cries and cries and it gets on my nerves! I would never have another bengal -- a moggie is just fine for me. I love Raiden with all my heart, but if I'd known what I was in for .... I never would have agreed to take him. But, I've made a commitment to care for him the rest of his/my life, so no matter what happens, I'm ALL in.


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PostPosted: Fri Oct 30, 2015 8:55 am 
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Sherry wrote:
Not everybody has the stamina and patience to deal with a bengal cat. I'm past retirement age and I don't think I have the patience I should have with Raiden. He cries and cries and it gets on my nerves! I would never have another bengal -- a moggie is just fine for me. I love Raiden with all my heart, but if I'd known what I was in for .... I never would have agreed to take him. But, I've made a commitment to care for him the rest of his/my life, so no matter what happens, I'm ALL in.


Exactly. That's how I feel about any cat.

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PostPosted: Sat Oct 31, 2015 3:25 pm 
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Debbie, just know I'm so pleased you're back on the forum with us. We really missed you!!!!


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PostPosted: Sat Oct 31, 2015 6:00 pm 
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Sherry wrote:
Debbie, just know I'm so pleased you're back on the forum with us. We really missed you!!!!


Thank you and I'm really glad to be back too x

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PostPosted: Sat Oct 31, 2015 10:15 pm 
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I have been to see Izzy and Rory and they are both so beautiful. I gave Izzy loads of cuddles but not Rory as he had just arrived and was stressed. Izzy was rehomed for about a week and it sounded like a perfect home. Izzy is back so it obviously did not work out for her. I just wish people would give it time for the cat to show them their true character and not the stressed animal they obviously will be at first. I don't know why Izzy was returned so I can't judge but it does make me sad for her :sad: When Oscar was in the rescue centre lots of people wanted him apparently but they knew he had to go to a very particular type of home so they turned people down if they did not fit the right criteria.

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PostPosted: Sat Oct 31, 2015 10:50 pm 
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brianj12 wrote:
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Just wanted to introduce sweet Autumn to the form. She was picked up as a stray - Declawed, not chipped, unfixed and estimated a year old.


Oh Christ, declawed, not chipped, and unfixed, and then ultimately abandoned... it's basically the irresponsible owner trifecta (quadfecta?). It's nice that you are giving her a home. Is she going to get fixed? Or do you have to wait some period for an owner to come forward? Sounds like that creates a pretty big hardship for you.

Also, I'm curious about how "fostering" works. It's sort of a temporary living situation isn't it?



I think the rescue wanted to give her some time to settle before she got fixed. She was very terrified at the shelter, and when first arriving here as well.

I suppose you can foster for however long you like or can until a forever home is found. I would like to continue to foster her because I already have fallen in love with her, but the cats are still not getting along- mainly its my female who is very aggressive towards her, she sometimes will growl and try to attack the "safe room" door. I have to lock mine up if I want to let Autumn roam the house for a little and vise versa. Either way I have a howling Bengal who wishes to explore the house. During December I will be traveling for vacation and I feel that being locked up completely for a days with minimal contact from the pet sitter will just be so absolutely miserable for her, then after vacation we have relatives coming to stay. So we are probably going to foster her to around then.

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PostPosted: Sat Oct 31, 2015 11:01 pm 
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I have been to see Izzy and Rory and they are both so beautiful. I gave Izzy loads of cuddles but not Rory as he had just arrived and was stressed. Izzy was rehomed for about a week and it sounded like a perfect home. Izzy is back so it obviously did not work out for her. I just wish people would give it time for the cat to show them their true character and not the stressed animal they obviously will be at first. I don't know why Izzy was returned so I can't judge but it does make me sad for her :sad: When Oscar was in the rescue centre lots of people wanted him apparently but they knew he had to go to a very particular type of home so they turned people down if they did not fit the right criteria.


Spitspot, how lovely of you to go and visit the two of them and that's very sad that it didn't work out for Izzy. I wonder why? A week is not time at all!

I had Dexter for nearly 10 months and he was just about gaining confidence and even then I thought that was no time at all. I know it's easy to be judgemental but I do get frustrated with stupid people!

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 01, 2015 8:48 am 
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Who knows? maybe she showed slight aggression as she was frightened or maybe she was peeing or something? All I know is that when I was in my seriously down moments, I admit I did think about giving Oscar back. He was peeing and spraying and also slightly aggressive. The thing that made me determined to sort Oscar out was the thought that if I can't sort this cat out and help him to work through his behavioural issues then who the hell will? I had visions of him going from home to home getting worse in his behaviour until someone snapped and had him put down. I sat next to him and had a heart to heart with lots of tears. I honestly think that moment changed everything and by that I mean my attitude!!! From then on I was positive and put a smile on my face as I scrubbed the walls and cleaned up pee !! Positive vibes and love ( and lots of litter trays) was my way forward and it seemed to work! I desperately want to go to the shelter and scoop both bengals up (izzy and rory) and take them home and love them to bits. Oscar has six beds (not counting human ones) thats two each! Surely he could share? Yeah right!!! From seeing how the kind lady on here is getting on fostering Autumn with her female wanting to kill Autumn and attacking the safe room door...........am I mad to even consider it ? Lots of people have multiple bengals on here but did they get them all as kittens? or did they introduce new kittens to older cats. Are kittens less of a threat and therefore more accepted? I have had cats for 45 yrs but I have never had a kitten, just rescues that were homed in pairs or triples. Big part of my cat experience and knowledge missing. What do all you multiple bengal owner think?

Debbie, you must miss Dexter every day. So so hard to lose a loved baby so young. Thank goodness you had Muskey to cuddle and to mop up the tears. xxxxx

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 01, 2015 10:02 am 
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I can imagine how tempted you are to try, Melissa! However, Oscar I imagine will not be happy at all! My experience is having two (male) bengals, can be hard work to make sure they are both happy and getting on and with plenty of spaces that are 'theirs' etc. You also have to be so careful to give them equal love and affection as the other is always watching! And when Hendrix was beaten up, it caused all sorts of friction between them and I had to work hard to get things back on an even keel. Visits to the vet can cause issues as well, if only one needs to go and comes back smelling of vet, it can take up to a week for the other to completely reaccept them.

My understanding is that introducing a kitten is the best way forward as it won't be seen as a threat to the adult, but you will probably still have lots of stress and peeing going on!

Even getting our two as kittens was a challenge, I was ripped to pieces and must admit I had days I thought I couldn't cope with them (and I also had a couple of times where I cried in despair). But like you, I thought no-one else would have the patience to put up with them, certainly couldn't imagine splitting them up and soon put those thoughts out of my head, especially as there wasn't a malicious bone in their bodies. Plus I'd made a commitment, so I just persevered and now they are the loveliest cats I've ever known, so appreciative, loving and make me laugh every day!

But if something (God forbid) happened to one of them, I'm not sure I would get another as whilst Hendrix and jagger are very bonded, I don't think a new arrival would be accepted easily or at all, and I wouldnt want to take the chance.

Can't believe izzy was given back so soon, a week is no time at all, I really hope they find someone soon who has the time and patience to work with her like you did with Oscar. Maybe if you were up for it, they could put you in touch with whoever takes her on and you could help and advise them as you've already gone through it? A kind of 'buddy' system?

Anyway, that's just my thoughts, I too would be tempted but it would probably set Oscar back and could even just never work out and izzy and/or Rory would need re homing again. Not an easy decision at all!

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 01, 2015 11:51 am 
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There's hardly a day that goes by that I don't think of Dexter. Because of everything we went through together it was tough when I lost him. I could tell he was going to be a wonderful cat and we never saw his true personality because of his ill health.

Imagine it would be very tricky introducing adult Bengal's to each other. I personally wouldn't do it as you now have Oscar settled and happy and goodness knows what would happen if you did.

I'm hopeful that they will be snapped up by someone though. They are stunningly beautiful.

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 01, 2015 2:47 pm 
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I am not going to upset Oscar's world. I just get frustrated that cats prefer to be solitary when grown up. I have such a perfect setting for them all. Oh well will just hope the right people come along. Debbie - I know how you feel losing Dexter, it's a physical ache that just lingers for so long :cry:

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 01, 2015 3:20 pm 
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spitspot wrote:
I am not going to upset Oscar's world. I just get frustrated that cats prefer to be solitary when grown up. I have such a perfect setting for them all. Oh well will just hope the right people come along. Debbie - I know how you feel losing Dexter, it's a physical ache that just lingers for so long :cry:


Thanks Spitspot. It helps still being able to talk about him on here. We all miss him so much even dh misses him who he hated lol!

I've just checked NCP and I see that Rory has been reserved!

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PostPosted: Sun Nov 01, 2015 4:58 pm 
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I'm surprised the rescue didn't do more to inform the owners about bengals. With any cat, a week or two isn't long enough. Sometimes (as we all know from posts on here), it can take weeks or even months for a kitty to settle in to a new environment. I think it's lack of patience and understanding what a cat needs. This forum goes from bringing kittens home, to introducing new cats to the household, to illnesses and finally death! Life is real for pet owners. We've all been through our own trials with our babies! And it continues to hurt when we lose them -- we NEVER forget them.

Poor Autumn ... gets a foster home and now will need to go to a new home next month! I really would like to think they can find a wonderful bengal lover to take her in and give her the permanency that she needs!


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PostPosted: Sun Nov 01, 2015 6:22 pm 
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Sherry wrote:
I'm surprised the rescue didn't do more to inform the owners about bengals. With any cat, a week or two isn't long enough. Sometimes (as we all know from posts on here), it can take weeks or even months for a kitty to settle in to a new environment. I think it's lack of patience and understanding what a cat needs. This forum goes from bringing kittens home, to introducing new cats to the household, to illnesses and finally death! Life is real for pet owners. We've all been through our own trials with our babies! And it continues to hurt when we lose them -- we NEVER forget them.

Poor Autumn ... gets a foster home and now will need to go to a new home next month! I really would like to think they can find a wonderful bengal lover to take her in and give her the permanency that she needs!


Yes... It breaks my heart, cause you fall in love with them, and you want it to somehow work out. But rather than the cats getting along better as it goes by, it seems like it's just getting worse. I feel awful that my female cat is terrorizing her and that she's stuck walking around in circles howling in our guest bedroom all day long while we're at work because of it. I feel helpless cause I'm not able to control my cat from being so mean. I get frustrated too, because you want them to just all get along so you can give her the home she deserves.

I guess this is why some people say fostering is hard sometimes.

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