My bengal has never bitten me, thankfully! I agree with all the other advice you have been given. A bengal will be a 5th 2-year old toddler for you, except bengals always remain a toddler. A Norwegian Forest cat requires combing -- they are gorgeous long-haired kitties. I think a Ragdoll or Maine Coon would be a great fit, however, you can get a regular kitty that can also be a great fit. Cats are very intuitive and can understand what your daughter needs. Bustling households can be too much for some cats. Hopefully, you have the space for a kitty to head off on its own and have some alone time.
I don't know if I would start with a kitten as they can be extremely "rough" on a child who has never interacted with an animal before. I have a video of my 18-month old niece hitting a dog with a toy iron. Regardless, you supervise any cat when it is around children.
There are many great articles on the internet you might want to read including this one:
https://www.purina.com/better-with-pets ... c-childrenOwning a cat can teach your older children responsibility in feeding and taking care of the kitty. Unfortunately, it may decide to bond more with the one who is feeding and taking care of it. I'm sure there is a cat rescue or even a shelter near you that may have the ideal cat for your situation.
Bengals are gorgeous kitties, however, they are demanding, energetic, highly vocal, super intelligent, quite social -- and while one may fit in perfectly with a busy family, I don't believe it will be a cuddly, lap cat for more than a few minutes and then off the kitty goes.
Dogs are also great options and many are trained to help special needs children. Cats can't easily be trained. Good luck in your search and let us know what you decide.